Money on Your Mind? How Financial Stress Affects Your Mental Health

Let’s be honest—money can be a lot. Whether you're staring down a stack of bills, avoiding your banking app like it's haunted, or wondering how anyone actually saves for retirement and groceries, you're not alone.

In fact, if you’re feeling anxious, exhausted, or just plain stuck about your financial situation, it’s not “just stress”—it’s real, valid, and deeply personal. And you’re definitely not the only one. So many of us are dealing with financial stress daily, and the toll it takes isn’t just on your bank account—it’s on your body, your brain, your relationships, and your sense of self.

So let’s talk about it. Let’s name the stress, understand where it comes from, and—most importantly—find ways to take back some control (without pretending it’s easy or ignoring the emotional weight it carries).

HOW DO YOU RELIEVE FINANCIAL STRESS?

First, a little compassion: if you’re dealing with financial stress, it’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed. Money stress can trigger everything from sleepless nights to constant worry, and it’s hard to think clearly when your brain is in panic mode.

But there are ways to start relieving that stress—even if your situation doesn’t change overnight. Here’s how to begin:

1. Start with Awareness, Not Avoidance

Avoiding the numbers won’t make them go away (we’ve all tried). Facing your financial reality—without judgment—is the first step. Write it all down. What you owe, what you earn, what’s stressing you out most.

2. Break It Into Bite-Sized Steps

“Fix finances” is not a helpful to-do list item. But “make a budget for this week,” or “call to set up a payment plan,” or “read one article on saving” are manageable. Small steps count, and they build momentum.

3. Talk to Someone (Seriously)

Financial therapy is a thing. So is regular therapy. If your financial stress is affecting your mental health (spoiler: it probably is), talking to a professional can be a game-changer. Even just telling a trusted friend or partner can help release the pressure.

4. Practice Grounding Techniques

It’s hard to make good decisions when your nervous system is fried. Deep breathing, mindfulness, or even a short walk can help reset your brain when panic creeps in. You’re allowed to pause before problem-solving.

5. Remind Yourself: You Are Not Your Bank Balance

Your worth is not defined by your debt, your income, or your credit score. You are still a whole, deserving, capable human being—even if your financial life feels messy right now.

Dealing with financial stress doesn’t mean ignoring your emotions. It means learning how to walk with them—and finding tools that keep you steady while you figure things out.

HOW DO I STOP STRUGGLING FINANCIALLY?

Whew. Big question. And let’s be real—it’s not just about “budgeting better” or “cutting lattes.”

Dealing with financial stress often has roots in systemic issues: wage gaps, healthcare costs, housing shortages, childcare expenses, and more. So if you're struggling financially, it's not your fault—and it's okay if you can't solve it with a spreadsheet alone.

That said, here are some empowering steps you can take:

1. Track Every Dollar (With Curiosity, Not Shame)

Knowledge is power. Understanding where your money goes each month—without beating yourself up—can give you clarity. Apps like Mint, YNAB, or just a good old notebook work great.

2. Build a “Bare Bones” Budget

If things are tight, focus on your true essentials first: housing, food, transportation, health. Knowing your survival baseline helps you feel more grounded.

3. Increase Income Where Possible

Easier said than done, yes—but worth exploring. Could you pick up freelance work? Sell something? Ask for a raise? Even a small increase can make a big difference over time.

4. Ask for Help

Community resources, food banks, housing assistance, financial advisors—support exists, even if it’s hard to ask. Needing help is human. You don’t have to do this alone.

5. Set One Tiny Goal

Whether it’s saving $5 a week, making one call to reduce a bill, or opening a savings account—even the smallest move counts. You don’t have to do it all at once.

Stopping the financial struggle is rarely instant. But taking intentional steps, rooted in self-compassion and support, can absolutely move you toward stability.

WHAT IS THE ROOT CAUSE OF FINANCIAL STRESS?

If dealing with financial stress feels like a constant background buzz in your life, you’re not imagining it. But what’s underneath it?

Some common root causes include:

  • Unpredictable income: Freelancers, gig workers, and hourly employees often face feast-or-famine cycles that make planning nearly impossible.

  • Debt overload: Student loans, credit cards, medical bills—it piles up fast.

  • Cost of living vs. wages: You’re not imagining it—it’s harder to make ends meet today than it was a generation ago.

  • Childhood money beliefs: If you grew up around scarcity, conflict, or silence about money, that stress can carry into adulthood.

  • Perfectionism + comparison: Feeling like you're “behind” or not doing enough financially (thanks, Instagram) adds pressure that’s often rooted in unrealistic expectations.

The root cause is rarely just poor planning. It’s emotional, generational, and often shaped by forces outside our control.

But when you understand where your stress is really coming from, you can start to soften it. You can separate your self-worth from your net worth—and that shift alone can be incredibly freeing.

HOW DOES FINANCIAL STRESS AFFECT MENTAL HEALTH?

Let’s talk science for a second.

Chronic stress—like the kind that comes from dealing with financial stress—impacts the brain and body in real ways. It can cause:

  • Trouble sleeping

  • Anxiety and depression

  • Difficulty concentrating

  • Increased irritability or hopelessness

  • Physical symptoms like headaches, stomach issues, and fatigue

It can also affect your relationships. Money stress is one of the top causes of tension between partners—and when you’re constantly worried, it’s hard to be present, connected, or emotionally available.

Even worse? When you're mentally worn down, it's harder to make good financial decisions. It’s a vicious cycle—but one you can break.

Taking care of your mental health isn't separate from financial wellness—it's part of it. And sometimes, the best financial move is tending to your anxiety first.

So yes, build a budget. But also take a nap. Call your therapist. Drink water. Be gentle with yourself.

You are doing your best. And that matters.

FINAL THOUGHTS: YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS

Dealing with financial stress can feel isolating, embarrassing, even shameful. But the truth? It’s incredibly common—and it says nothing about your value as a person.

You’re not lazy. You’re not irresponsible. You’re navigating a complex world with compassion and courage.

So take a deep breath. Start with one small step. Reach out for support if you can. And remember: your mental health deserves just as much care as your financial health—because they’re deeply connected.

You don’t have to have it all figured out today.

You just have to keep going, one kind, steady choice at a time.

Chanel Dokun

Author of Life Starts Now and Co-Founder of Healthy Minds NYC

http://www.chaneldokun.com
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